Roberto Lazo

Our intimacy

/ / October 29th, 2011 / / The neuron-neuron adventurous adventurer

Intimacy reference to our own private world, involves the action of our actions, desires and thoughts.

What we mean by our private sector requires the non-transferable under our self against the Other, because otherwise perish by being known or public.

Beliefs, opinions, even their own memories acts fall into this category of privacy. Our actions may be contrary to the moral assessment dominant, we tend to believe that the intimate, is related to our sexual tastes, unspeakable fantasies and desires, which would be publicly shunned by society.

The deadly sins, lying, lust, stealing, envy, selfishness that causes us to act on behalf of our interests and against the good society thinks.

Supposedly those bad thoughts of any kind in our space we protect privacy.

What sense does it maintain the privacy our opinions and feelings to others?

The fear of being judged by what shapes our views, tastes and desires are imposed on us as children. We should ask ourselves, what dishonor of our privacy? We could infer that privacy is necessary to live among the rest, it is essential to have a place to store all that we are ashamed or directly or indirectly is objectionable, exclusionary and willful in our society. We hide what a burden imposed on all forces us to remain permanently alert and in a situation of ambiguity cyclothymic, between what we really are and with what we should be to others. We are hostages of a moralistic and hypocritical society, that marks the line of what we have to be. We are victims of ourselves and pay a double price for the same offense.

Ego and modesty

However, against position, today attended a counterpoint between intimate and public, intimacy becomes a source of power and social support to the ego of the masses. The network society has released all prevailing prejudices accumulated in the past, allowing us to speak and expose our intimacies and secrets.

The author Silvia Hopenhayn wrote the essay "society of spectacle" Reflections on the "Today everything is shown, nothing is preserved. The tools we have and use all: webcams, YouTube, FaceBook, MySpace, fotologs, Twitter, UpStream, SecondLife are ways that enhance the self intimate allowed to cross the bridge between the fear of loneliness and the need to establish themselves as unique individuals.
Intimacy requires us devalued my view, to maintain some control of our shame, that is, not everything can be counted. The loss of our privacy in order to be recognized or visible, weakens our inner balance. It should be control by the shame that we need to protect an intimate world of his own, where they can develop the energies of our dreams and desires, thereby enhancing awareness of self. Faced with a society that every day we are subjected to accept as irrevocable the vulgar and trivial, as a prerequisite to join the world in the network and the public, the paradox is, or bring some intimacy to the spectacle of the virtual world still visible or we have no right to exist in the real world.

I claim the right in the words of Antonio Machado "talk to the man who always goes with me" There is more wisdom to know oneself, or being better than owning our silences.